I have survived many changes in the seasons of life: moves, career changes, and the most impactful changes of the death of my 1st husband, and most recently the death of my mother this past year. This last change resulted in me becoming the primary remote caregiver for my dad in memory care as well. Life is all about change and we cannot escape change.
What is a change anyway? Dictionary.com defines it as: To transform, become different, alter, modify, switch, and pass gradually.
Do you embrace change? Do you welcome it like Deepak? I welcome the nice and good changes easier than the difficult ones for sure. I am working towards welcoming all changes. How can we begin to welcome change? Read more to find out.
Think about a change you’ve experienced recently. Take a moment and remember that change. What emotions did you have? Was it an awesome change? Maybe you got some good news or have a new relationship. Was it an awful change? Perhaps you received some bad or sad news, or a relationship ended. No matter what change you’ve experienced, there are emotions attached to change. With a change there is an emotional response and an associated loss. Even with a great change.
For example, getting married – it’s a great but, there are the pre-nuptial butterflies, doubts, fears and wow, I’m not just me anymore and I’m a couple forever thoughts. What about that horrible relationship that’s finally over? There is often relief but sadness too. When it’s an awful change like death of a loved one, we often experience emotions of shock, denial, anger, fear, and depression. All of these feelings are part of the natural change cycle. Change equals loss.
How do we survive change and eventually learn to thrive in change?
We start by acknowledging that change has brought about loss. Now we can start to move forward with survival steps. I use a set of steps when working with my clients as we move forward through the change. We start by first surviving the change, then we move toward thriving.
First step to surviving change:
Make a list of all the losses that are associated with the change.
- You didn’t just get divorced, loose/change a job, just become caregiver, empty nester. You lost… a partner, friends, lifestyle, helper, person who did …, loss of income, loss of power, sense of self, self esteem, purpose, safety, confidant, home, familiar…., etc.
- Take time to list ALL the losses.
- Celebrate you took the first step and listed your losses due to your change!
I will be sharing additional steps to surviving change in upcoming blogs. In the mean time, here’s to working towards accepting change. I've included some resources for you that may be helpful in navigating change. May you be ready to welcome ALL change!
What changes have you been through? How have you survived change? I’d love to hear from you and learn more. Did you find this a useful or thought provoking topic? Click like, share, or comment please. Perhaps someone you know could use this information, please share.
Are you or someone you know going through a life change and wonder what’s next? Feeling stuck and not sure what to do? Are you ready to take a step forward with your life? If so, I’d be honored to embark on that journey together with you. I partner with those who desire change and are ready to make positive changes. Together we work to move forward to live boldly and fulfilled. I love hearing my clients regain their lives and loving life again.
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Peace, Love, & Blessings,
Bold Fulfilled Business & Life Coach – Change and Loss Specialty
Resources for Change:
Managing and Surviving Change