You may have noticed it’s been a while since I have written, I’ve had my own time of change and reeling from the immense destruction occurring worldwide.
Change- it's a part of life. Sometimes it feels like way too much change at one time. I understand that.
Most of us are moving on to fall and thinking of the upcoming holidays. Massive disasters have faded into our history. However, those affected are still dealing with the aftermath. It’s NOT over for them. Many are suffering there is a deep sense of loss and grief around those losses.
What can we do? How does one become resilient during massive change and chaos?
5 Tips to Build Resiliency During Chaos
1. Assess what's true & obtain facts.
- Stop the awesome creative mind for a minute.
- Stop and breathe.
- Stop the what if... what about...?
- Determine what is fact vs. fiction or hysteria.
Dad's is in Tampa, FL in memory care. A harrowing few days of wondering if he was safe and what to do. Living on the prayers and hope as they "sheltered in place, backup generators, 10 day supply of food, water and medicine.”
Fact - I had all the information I could obtain and I did not like the sit tight & wait feeling. Wishing I could DO something. But unable to safely or realistically. Grrr.
Fact - I'm safe and all is well in my world. Thank God.
I’m called to help. There are still lots of opportunities to volunteer on the Gulf coast. PR, VI and places world wide. Lots of help and support is still needed. I'm grateful to be a small part of humanity helping others. Blessed to coach and give presentations on grief and loss to those effected in service.
2. Assess your feelings about the situation.
- Take a moment, breathe again.
- Just be with your feelings.
- Not judging - just notice, thank your body for the feelings and let them be.
- Stuffing feelings and emotions will just result in outbreaks at in opportune times.
- Worse you can cause more problems and be the hysterical not helpful person.
I’m still sad about some of the events. I’m happy to be service. I’m emotionally drained by serving others and hearing their stories of loss. I’m horrified at what I witnessed as gas stations & stores by other fellow humans. I'm blessed beyond measure
3. What can you do if anything about the situation?
- Sometimes we want so badly to DO something.
- Sometimes there isn’t a darn thing you can do.
- It may a natural disaster & Gods in charge.
- Pray and find gratitude where you can.
- If you are able to do something see #4.
4. What do you want to DO and are able to?
- Consider what you want to do?
- What kind of help can you provide?
- Do you have unique skills or resources?
- Are you physically and emotionally able to help?
- Are your motives pure?
5. Do those you are helping want your help?
- Showing up just to help may be the right answer
- It may not be what is needed either.
- Be sure where and who you are going to help are in a place ready to accept your help.
Some thoughts on emergency preparedness
- It's not if it's when.
- Make a basic emergency preparedness plan for you & your family.
- https://www.ready.gov/ is a place to start.
- Be like the Boys Scouts of America - Be Prepared!
Be knowledgeable and based in facts and love
- Please don't contribute to the insanity or chaos or hysteria.
- People who are not prepared will panic
- (I.e. the Texas gasopolypse insanity)
- Be sure your social media posts/shares are factual (use snopes) and helpful vs. hurtful.
- Be mindful to the news and media.
All in all, chaos and change can be a good thing. It can help us all remember what’s most important and what isn't. It can bring out the best in us. It can cause us to ponder life and what it is all about. It can bring about great times of personal growth as we grow our resiliency.
Paralyzed by chaos or change? Wish you were more resilient? I provide a safe place for those who life has knocked down to build resiliency & move forward.I'd love to connect.
I wish you calm, order and peace in these times of chaos. Here's to building your resiliency!
Teresa Bitner - PMP, M. Ed., ACC
Resiliency, Change, and Loss Specialist
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