We’re going to dig a bit deeper into confidence building actions you can take – these may take longer but can give longer last results.
You may be at a place where no matter what you can’t get your groove back and feel low about your confidence. This has been referred to a confidence depletion. It happens to all of us. Sometimes all at once or after a series of setbacks. It’s normal. Most times we may bounce back quickly but in 2021 I’m finding several of my clients unable to bounce back like they did and seeking help and support to find their groove.
When you’re depleted and confidence is waning - it’s a great time to take action. Taking action will help move you towards higher confidence.
Here are some actions to build confidence
1.Acknowledge where you are
a.Sometimes simply taking a few moments to admit, wow, I really don’t feel like I’ve got confidence to do ____ is freeing
b.Name it and say it out loud, even to yourself. There’s great power in our words.
2.Contemplate or journal the following
a. This lack of confidence makes me feel ______ (using feeling words)
b.Who am I when I’m confident?
3.Practice Deep Breathing
a.I hear you saying, “Yeah, I tried that but….”. Stay with me & keep reading
b.It’s scientifically proven to be of great benefit to your body, mind and soul
c.Breathe in & hold – then release for a moment longer for a few times
4.Get out of your comfort zone
a.Even a small step builds confidence – this can be at work or in your personal life
b.Work: ask questions in meetings, schedule that meeting you’ve been avoiding, make that call, take one step on a project
c.Personal: Do that thing you’ve been wary to do, take one step outside your comfort zone
5.Volunteer for something
a.Work: volunteer to run/present at a meeting present, ask questions in meetings
b.Personal: Volunteer doing something new, volunteer for a leadership role
6.Exercise – you’ll feel better about yourself
a.A quick walk at least once per day can do wonders
b.Even better if after lunch to help the afternoon sleepies
7.Hydrate & eat well
a.If you’re dehydrated you’re not able to use your full brain capacity
b.Eating healthy to fuel your body & mind
8.Be mindful of your self-talk
a.STOP shoulding and I need toing yourself
b.Reframe with - I get to ___. It’s a more positive mindset
9.Celebrate or Acknowledge
a.Every small step is a win.
b.Big wins – plan a celebration to celebrate your progress.
How might you start to build self-confidence today?
Remember, it is very, normal to have moments of low confidence and questioning yourself. Take a moment and allow it. When you’re ready, dip into these actions to build your confidence. Remember the world has only one YOU. You are a unique God created being and the world needs you and your talents.
If you would like to build your confidence or other skill, please reach out and contact me. I love supporting my clients to get up and bounce back and live boldly.
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Peace & Blessings,
Teresa – Digging deeper into growing my resiliency
Teresa Q. Bitner, M.Ed., PMP, ACC - Resiliency, Change and Loss Coach
Partnering with those who have been knocked down my life and want to build resiliency and move forward and live a bold life.
Author of Soul Love: How A Dog Taught Me to Breathe Again &
The First Days Widow Journey