A client this week described resilience like a tennis ball bouncing back. Great analogy and I have his permission to use his example. Sometimes things happen, adversity hits, and we cruise straight through it. Our little tennis ball bounces back happily along in life and we have few setbacks.
He asked what happens when the tennis ball goes off course and gets stuck in the mud. How do you bounce then? Your stuck in the mud. Ah, yes, this is adversity. It can be a time for digging into resiliency skills.
Adversity in the Oxford dictionary defines it as difficulties or misfortune. The "use in a sentence even says" - “…resilience in the face of adversity | she overcame many adversities…” Yay for her but what about me?
Adversity can look like layoffs, illness, injury, self-doubt, poverty, grief, loss, struggles, rejection, fatigue. There are physical, mental, emotional, financial, social, and relationship types of adversities.
So how do we overcome adversity and get out of the mud when we’re stuck?
First - is realizing we’re stuck and muddy.
It may feel like life has got you down, the world is out to get you, a funk, you just can’t seem to get to it, things are just too hard, I recently described it as unable to find my “round to it.” We have good intentions, we want to be unstuck but inertia keeps us stuck.
Inertia is the tendency to remain unchanged, do nothing. Ever feel like inertia has you stuck? It’s sneaky and more common than we realize. You might not even be aware of it.
In physics inertia is defined as a property of matter which will continue at a state of rest until an external force changes the state. Think of a ball sitting in the mud. It’s not bouncing nor able to. An outside force has to get it unstuck and move it. The dog grabs it, it gets picked up, or kicked to get moving again. No external force = no movement.
Second – How to we get some movement make a change?
Take action and DO something.
Somethings to DO
- Take a walk
- Go outside in nature
- Go somewhere different - a park, walk a different way in your local area
- Write, draw, journal, dance, listen to music
- Inject positivity into your life – find motivational quotes, watch a positive movie, read a insightful book (see my list of books here)
- Write what your grateful for down for a more positive outlook
- Write out a positive affirmation for yourself - expo marker on the mirror is a favorite
- Try mindfulness moment - pick an object - describe it with your 5 senses
- Find something that makes you laugh and smile - cat/dog videos anyone?
- Keep a list of your accomplishments and successes - Kudos List or I Love Me file
- Focus on what’s most important
- Set a micro goal that's 100% achievable
- Do something outside your comfort zone
- Get support – hire a coach – we specialize in unsticking people
Third – Reflect backwards after getting unstuck
- What happened that led you down the path to getting stuck?
- What are the facts?
- What did you have control over?
- How could you prepare in the future?
- What can you do in the future to not get stuck?
- Did you notice any triggers or patterns of behavior?
- What did learn from this experience and/or reflection?
- Breathe and let it go
How about you? Are you bouncing back or stuck?
If you want to hear more about overcoming adversity, listen into my latest podcast interview with Phillip Robinson of the Saving Brothers: You Matter Podcast. Thank you Phillip for the opportunity.
May you overcome adversity and get out of the mud and bounce back!
If you or someone you know would like support to bounce back and get unstuck, please reach out and contact me. You can also forward this to them or even provide an e-mail introduction. I provide a safe place to explore your life and business. My clients are rocking their recovery, new jobs, promotions, and living more intentionally. They inspire me!
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Teresa –Overcoming adversity & not taking no for an answer!
Teresa Q. Bitner, M.Ed., PMP, PCC - Resiliency, Change and Loss Coach
Partnering with those who have been knocked down my life and want to build resiliency and move forward and live a bold life.
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I'm honored to share and talk about overcoming adversity and building resilience.
Thank you for having me as guest on your podcast!
Saving Brothers is about meeting men wherever they are in life, with a focus on empowering men to gain control over their health, self and worth and creating connections and better communication, not only for men, but for women that love and support them
Thank you Phillip for the work you do!
To learn more about Philip and his work at Saving Brothers click here: https://savingbrothers.com/about/
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