Second Step to Surviving Change and Loss – Mourn those Losses

Mourn the loss

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief…and unspeakable love.”
– Washington Irving

I love that quote. It puts the act of mourning into great words.  In my last post I discussed the first step to surviving a change is to acknowledge the change or loss and then write down ALL of those losses associated with the change or loss.  I hope you’ve taken time to record and write down ALL of the losses associated with your change or loss.  Remember you didn’t just loose a ____ you lost many other things with this change and loss.
 
So now what, you have this heavy list of ALL of your losses. What’s the next step?
 
Second step to surviving change and loss is to: Take time to mourn each of those losses you’ve recorded.

• Mourning is defined as feeling or expressing sorrow or grief;  lamenting over.

• There is no correct or wrong way to grieve or mourn. It’s unique to you and your experiences. 

 

• Express the mourning and grieving – it’s a key part of the healing process
  • For each loss have a good cry, wail, scream, yell, rage, whatever emotion comes up
  • Journal, write, draw, or paint your losses
  • Talk to a trusted someone about your losses.

 

• Celebrate you took the second step and mourned your losses!
  • Take some time to acknowledge this hard work.

 
I will be sharing additional steps to surviving change and loss in upcoming posts.  In the mean time, take time to mourn those losses.  I've included some resources for you that may be helpful in navigating mourning and loss below. 
 
Are you or someone you know struggling with change and loss? I partner with those who desire change and are ready to make positive changes.  Together we work to move forward to live boldly and fulfilled.  I love hearing my clients joy restored and life moving forward again.  Check out my website or email me and let’s connect. 

Are you or someone you know dealing with loss and grief? Who do you know that has lost someone this past year?
 

• Register early for my Grief Triage - Strategies to Survive the Holidays Webinar 
  
  • Thursday, Oct. 20 -  8pm EST - 7pm CST – 5pm PST
    

 

• The holidays can bring up a lot of raw emotions and rob us of the joy of the season.  Learn and understand the perspectives on the wide range of normal grief responses that arise during the holidays. We will also explore what to expect from the holidays emotionally and physically and so you can prepare ahead of time with strategies for surviving. 
  

Peace, Love, & Blessings,
 
Teresa Bitner

Bold Fulfilled Business & Life Coach –Change and Loss Specialty
[email protected]

 
Resources for Mourning and Loss
 
Coping with Grief and Loss
 
Mourning and Grieving

Coping with Grief

Coping with Bereavement